Did you go boldly into middle age without skipping a beat? Not I!
Most of these photos were taken yesterday as I carried out my usual Friday responsibilities. I had no meetings or appointments so I could throw on a pair of jeans and a tank with a black linen biker jacket and a pair of sandals.
Personal style is the interpretation of a suggestion.
And then there is this.
The photo above was taken in 2010 shortly before I turned fifty-four. I weighed about forty-five pounds more than I do now. I was very sick and suffering from deep depression. I was still traumatized that I had turned fifty a few years before and couldn't figure out how to dress for this new phase of life. For some odd reason, I believed I had to follow a new set of rules and wear different clothes as I aged. That depressed me even more! I wanted to dress age appropriate, but I knew of no guidebook for that.
I also wrongly believed that gaining weight was part of the aging journey. The aches, pains, health problems and a weak immune system that came along with the weight gain were also attributed to the process of aging.
In my late forties, I gave away all my jeans and high heels because I thought I needed to dress for this new stage of life in a different way or risk looking foolish.
I remember standing in a shoe store looking at a fierce pair of strappy high heeled sandals and wanting with all my heart just to wear those shoes one more time. An evil little, wretched voice in my head whispered, "You are too old for those."
I realize today that the depression and weight gain were part of a grieving process. I was mourning the loss of the person I wanted to continue being.
In a few months, I will turn sixty but I am not depressed about that milestone at all. The difference is my attitude mixed with a bit of wisdom. I know now that with a few tweaks, I can keep my life long personal style.
I am wearing an old black linen biker style jacket from Express. The Erin London silver gray tank top is from the Marble Lion boutique located in the Inn at Biltmore estate. The jeggings are from Chico's last year.
The bag is by Zac Posen via Saks Off 5th. The shoes are by Sam Edelman via Nordstrom a couple of years ago.
The fabulous necklace and bracelet are from French Kande. The watch is several years old from Belk.
I went to see my friend and stylist this week. She gave me a fresh chrome mixed with pearl glaze and a trim. I am good to go for another five weeks! Thank you, Myra!
Rock on sisters! We've got this!
Thank you for joining us on this journey through midlife and beyond. The second fifty years are truly the best!
Created in collaboration with French Kande.
All words, styling, and creative direction are my own.